Love and Marriage

What do you think is the most important key to a long and happy marriage?

In my marriage, it was willingness to compromise. Do you have any secrets to a happy marriage?

Public Comments

1. i'm more of an expert on long happy divorce, but: COMMUNICATION !! you can do nothing without honest , open communication.
2. treat each other as friends,but honestly,there is no fixed formula,because sometimes there r things happening,beyond our control,but if we believed in the power of love,we can endure anything to have long and happy one.
3. No divorces!!! But, as much as my folks fought it was a blessing!!!
4. I live alone too, left my unhappy marriage, but I'd say a sense of humor that can weather anything.
5. i wish I knew. I think I would like it if my husband was open and honest with me. And treated me with respect.
6. Laughter. Liking each other. Trust. Freedom. Laugh when the worst has past. Still like each other even when your partner is sick. Never having a doubt in your mind as to what they are doing when they are not with you. Allowing them to be the person that they are - the one that you fell in love with.
7. Compromise is key, but both partners need to do so or resentment builds . And that wall is tough to break down.
8. you not only have to love your mate, but you have to truly like them as well
9. Loyalty, knowing when to keep your mouth shut, listening to what they are trying to say. Being there for them.
10. IT IS LOVE FOR ONE ANOTHER. LOVE CAN OVERCOME THE MOST INCREDIBLE OBSTACLES. IF A MAN AND WIFE ARE DEVOTED TO ONE ANOTHER THERE IS NO PROBLEM THEY CAN'T SURMOUNT.
11. Respect for each other is very important. Also love, trust and kindness. These are the things that matter in the long run.
12. Agreeing it is o-kay to disagree.
13. Apparently not. Mine lasted 18 years and then pf-ft.
14. Absolute love and respect for each other.
15. In my opinion the most important key to a long and happy marriage is to choose your life partner carefully. Make sure you are really in love and not just in lust or infatuated with the person. Don't marry someone with the hopes of changing them. Take the time each day to do something special for each other no matter how small or insignificant it may seem. When you are dating you usually try a little harder to be thoughtful,sweet and loving to one another. Continue to do that after you get married.Really mean those vows as you take them. I speak from experience.
16. Respect!
17. Sex. Face it, it's important to keep men into the matrimonial tie. Fidelity. Ability to give and take. Forgiving heart By the way, some ideas on my first note: Vitamins To Increase Libido And Spice Up Your Love Life http://womans-health.net/vitamins_to_increase_libido.htm Natural Herbal Aphrodisiacs To Put The Sizzle Back In The Bedroom http://womans-health.net/natural_herbal_aphrodisiacs1.htm
18. Select well, and work like hell, followed by the 5 "C"s 1. Communications 2. Compromise 3. Commitment 4. Caring 5. Church
19. Hello, to recognise a persons space, aura, and show respect to it.
20. Love and respect for each others weaknesses as well as strengths. The ability to discuss anything and everything and to compromise. 40plus years and still going strong!!
21. Communication # 1. Living and learning together - humor and being able to laugh at your self. Respect for one another. Allowing each other to be who they are. My husband had been my best friend, lover and soul mate for 51 plus years and we still can "respect" one another. He has treated me as an equal from day one. I didn't have to burn my bra. lol. Very good question. DeeJay.
22. Always live in different states. It worked for me and was the only thing that allowed the marriage to continue.
23. honesty, and generosity as in anything else, of course. and compliments.
24. I'm still working on it. we been married for 45 years and if it wasn't for her I wouldn't be here today
25. That some days you may not like each other. That you may dislike each other for months . But as long as you still love each other then you can make it. That love isn't a fussy feeling it is a decision. You must wake up each day and decide to love each other
26. OPEN AND HONEST COMMUNICATION....with first setting ground rules for such. UNDERSTANDING that highs and lows are not the measure of a marriage , but rather finding that plateau that brings satisfaction and acceptance. KNOWING that any good thing in life takes a bit of work and hormones do not a marriage make.
27. The secret is to mind your own "christian" business. If you can't make a go of it(marriage), suffer in silence and stop thinking about "holy" matrimony. I commend long and lasting marriages, but reality tends to separate desires and fidelity. Congratulations! Bet all that compromise wasn't 50%.
28. LOVE
29. To be best friends as well as lovers. To always show courtesy and respect for each other. To always think in terms of WE not ME. To compromise and thus agree on a decision. Never play control games. 41 years - so far, so good.